Everyone has said it before—that they regret something they did, or that they don't understand why something happened to them. Why did I do that? Or, why did this happen to me?
But have you ever taken a break and then stepped back to realize how that moment has changed you? Oftentimes, when something difficult or something we see as a mistake happens, we internalize it and let it fester inside us and we continue to have that sense of regret or grief.
However, whatever happens to us in our life carries plenty of meaning. Everything happens for a reason, and they ultimately make us who we are.
Our Experiences Shape Us
When something good happens in our life, we continuously revisit it. We remembering how amazing it was and how positively it impacted us—a great vacation, a first kiss, a wedding. Those important and positive life events bring us warm memories and optimism.
But why can't we revisit everything that happens in our life, like we do with positive memories, to realize that it all happens for a reason and makes us who we are?
When it's something tough, like the loss of someone close to you, it can linger heavily as you wonder why that person had to leave the world. But losing someone should be a reminder to appreciate what you have and who is in your life, and a perfect time to remember the amazing life that that person led.
Losing someone is harder than anything in the world, but that person would not want you to lose your life and yourself because of them; they would want you to live that much more.
Learning From Our Experiences
When an experience is something you see as a mistake, instead of dwelling on it, learn from it.
Don't say you should have, would have, or could have handled it differently. Instead, recognize your mistake and see it as a learning opportunity: a moment to stop and reflect, a moment that can change your life for the better.
If you’ve never lost someone or have never made a mistake in your life, then you wouldn't have the opportunity to recognize how amazing life is and make yourself a better person because of it.
Everything that happens in our lives, positive or negative, happens for a reason. And as long as you can reflect on every moment, learn from it, and appreciate it in hindsight, then every moment can allow you to grow into the person you are meant to become.